Do you Really Say what you Mean and Mean what you Say?

March 12, 2018

This morning, my client Julie said how she was feeling tired because she stayed up late. Only the week, before we had been discussing how she could care for herself and her adrenal exhaustion by going to bed early. 


On further enquiry, it turned out that she was in her pyjamas ready for bed and the door-bell rang.  It was her friend, John,  wanting to chat!  As it turned out, John would often arrive unannounced to "chat" and Julie would drop everything to care for him.


Julie didn't say what she really meant, which was that she was tired and annoyed and wanting the friend to go away! and, she didn't really mean what she said. "Yes, welcome  Come in!" Instead, she let John "talk" for another 90 mins.


Does this story sound familiar to you?  It certainly rings true for me, and for a lot of other people, especially those who work caring for others. 


Our brains are wired to take care of the "baby,"  and rightly so. This is a survival need!


However, we need to update our programming, and recognise that there are a lot of needy "children" in adult bodies out there, who want to be cared for. 


The real needy child that needs our attention is the one inside that we have exiled


Does this story "ring true" for you? 


Can you imagine someone that you have difficulty with really saying what you mean and meaning what you say?


Are you aware of what is happening in your body when you don't Express the Real You?


Do you

"keep your head" and lose your ground so you don't have a leg to stand on?


Do you

  • hold you breath?

  • grit your teeth?

  • collapse in your chest?

  • puff out you chest?

  • have a stiff upper lip?


All of these strategies and more take you out of your POWER.


They are reactions to an unresolved past story  where you felt powerless.


The GOOD NEWS is that Now you can reclaim your power. 


Here  are three keys to unlock and release your limiting past patterns of repression , so that you can take back your power and say what you really mean and mean what you say. 



 1.  Digging for Gold in your body.


Be aware of the sensations in your body when you are not saying what you mean and meaning what you say.


2.  Welcoming the sensations and giving them room to move.


3.  Compassion


Sound the note of your soul to bring you back into your heart.


Listen to Chloe Goodchild singing "How I love You." 


Place your hands on your heart and sing "How I love You" to your inner child.  

Are you ready to Express the Real You?


Contact me at or phone 0439352521


















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